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Let’s take this one question at a time…
WHO THE HELL ARE YOU AND WHY ARE YOU ON MY SCREEN?
Well, That escalated quickly. I am a Relationship and Breakup Coach, who has a slight addiction to psychology and behavioral science. I came in contact with many people in my time, some who have had various disorders, abusive, cheating, manipulating, and compulsive liar tendencies. I became addicted to the root of why people choose to live a certain life that keeps them in their own prisoner of their mind or to stay for the hell of someone else's. Now I tend to help the victims from careless traumatic events.
But before I was an relationship expert, I was a blogger. I started this site in 2018 and within two years it had garnered a loyal clients each month. In 2020, after my 5 year heartbreak is when I decided to take the full leap and finish my education to learn everything I could.
A little about me: I’m 31 years old. I grew up in Saint Charles, Missouri, then went to school and lived in Texas. I became a NLP Practitioner is when I decided to help people all over the world. A couple months later, I started an online business (and the earliest form of this blog), traveled, and lived all over the United States for about six months. I was on a mission to help as many people as I could struggling the same abuse, relationships, breakups, and life struggles that I had years previous almost nearly killed me.
HOW WOULD YOU SUMMARIZE YOUR PHILOSOPHY?
We’re all wrong about everything, some just a little less wrong than others. Everything sucks some of the time, and that’s OK — happiness is learning how to appreciate the struggles in your life. How to be the Top 4% wealthy live and have a different perception. I believe that trying to prove something to yourself and others is the root of most misery. When is the last time you came out of a fight to be proven wrong? I'll wait.
Rather than happiness, life is about solving problems. By solving problems I mean the story you keep telling yourself and driving yourself crazy. Sound familiar? Areas of concern I like to say.
Therefore, learn how to pick good "problems". Avoiding problems just makes everything worse. So, We then realize they aren't even real problems. We major in minor things. Humans aren't programmed to be "happy"(I'll explain here in a bit).
Human emotions are flawed. Always be skeptical of yourself, no matter what. Let go of your identity, you don’t really know who you are, nor should you. Sex is good. As long as it’s done consciously and for emotionally healthy reasons. So. do what you want. Appreciate love, but understand there are things more important than love. Your self-love for one.
Conflict is inevitable and often necessary. Sometimes things need to be broken before they can be made better. If you're willing to change the story you've been forcing yourself to believe, repeating the same ending, and ready to take ownership to be present.. Everything will change.
THIS IS A BIG SITE, WHERE SHOULD I START?
I recommend starting with each of the articles on the Blog page. It's where I spend my time between clients and blog about my personal experiences. Hell, I even throw some of my expertise in there for you. If you're looking for 1-1 coaching keep reading, we are almost there.
WHY DID YOU START THIS SITE?
I started blogging in 2016, just for fun. Never told a single sole. In the beginning, it was mostly about my party life and the girls I was dating. I never imagined it would be read by more than a handful of friends and acquaintances. It was more personal to blog about the things that I was going through in life. Fast forward to when I got my heart broke by a woman I had been in love with for five years. Left me and went and married some other guy. Bummer right?
Well, I though I had lost the woman I was going to married. I was depressed for OVER a year. One day, I finally snapped out of it and
pulled myself out from the gutter. That's when, We crossed paths for the first time in a year. Just me, her, and our hearts pounding out of our chest. Yup, you guessed it. I had made a terrible mistake. Well, Another 8 months of terrible decisions with her stringing her husband and me a long continued. One night, It all made sense. My Ex was attempting to make me jealous, while she was married, having an affair, then decided to maniacally not think and bring in a third person. I realized I had been telling myself and INSANE story for about 5 years.
I realized that was the very moment how lucky I was to win my ex back, but to see how little she truly cared. I had to also cut out a "best friend" of 15 years, whom gaslighted me stating, "You're making stuff up in your head. I hope you get help." Playing as they didn't know this was happening to their "best friend", while blocking me on a social media platform to hang out with my ex of 5 years(who had strung me along). That very moment brought me peace realizing apples and oranges. If someone asked you to give up the love of your life, best friend, and your mother would you do it? I cut out all the toxicity in my life. Would you be willing to take that scary chance knowing how much you could become, if you just learn to do the right thing? Are you ready to do what it takes to become the person you are meant to be? What's the point of having a voice, if you can't speak your truth? Being open, raw, and not scared to be who you are mean't to be and contribute back.
Sure, I can help you get your ex back.. It's possible. The only thing holding you back from anything you want is you. Your mindset and perception on your life control EVERYTHING. Where focus goes the energy flows, my friend. All the bad things that happen "to you" is exactly why you're suffering. The "universe" constantly gives your opportunities to be all that you say you are. When I help your reframe your past events and realizing what was actually happening "for you" everything will change. I can 100% guarantee that. As humans, we are constantly looking for ways to survive(hell, our ancestors were dodging sabertooth tigers). This means our brain is constantly on alert to look for danger. So, we continue to focus on the negatives as a species. We aren't built to be "happy", scientifically speaking. Wouldn't it feel nice to evolve by not working to make money and avoid your health... to one day realizing you're later just spending your money to stay alive? Too many people live their life suffering from their bad habits without the help out guidance from a trained practitioner in neuro-linguistic programming.
YOU WRITE THINGS THAT CONTRADICT A LOT OF THE POPULAR LIFE ADVICE AND SELF-HELP OUT THERE. WHAT’S YOUR PROBLEM, BRO?
Feeling good sells. It’s much easier to sell a book or a course or a seminar if you promise to make people feel good about themselves. I owe my life success to the growth and perceptive that was brought back in my life. I'm here to share it with you.
The problem is that feeling good about yourself isn’t the same thing as being good as yourself. In fact, a lot of this feel good stuff (like The Law of Attraction, or “everyone is special and exceptional,” or “just stay positive”) can be damaging in the long-run, as it turns us into a population of self-absorbed, entitled nitwits.
Possibly the most useful trait in life is resilience, and you build resilience through experiencing difficulty and challenges. Hell, I wouldn't be where I am today without the pain. The same way you must break down your body to build up your muscle and bone, you must experience a healthy amount of adversity to build up your emotional and psychological strength.
Everyone has a purpose and passion already in them. To take their views and used the events how they were mean't to be taken. Not the story they have been living with all these years. I offer 100% free 15 minute Discovery call to see if we are a good fit. I back my work and give 30 day back money guarantee that we get you the results you want. Book Today!